Like you, most singles are simply swamped with tasks and regular disappointments of being alone.
They have only limited resources and emotional energy to throw at dating efforts. The good news…It can be better.
You CAN thrive in the dating pool.
And, I’m here to show you how.
My name is Kristin Sokol.
For the last 15 years, I’ve specialized in helping single women over 30, position themselves to overcome today’s tricky dating odds.
Through one-on-one coaching, live events, and online programs, I have helped hundreds of women find solutions to their love and personal lives.
99% percent of the time, women come to me skeptical.
But they leave with a renewed sense of hope, excitement, and joy in dating and in life.
I was in a funk of disappointing relationships. I was super hung up on a guy who after dating for several months, chose another girl over me. It was a real low point. I heard Kristin on a podcast. What she said was simple and made sense, but I was skeptical that any of her advice would work on me. I was sure I was supposed to be unlucky in love and hopelessly alone forever. That’s how my life has always been. I don’t know how, but something inside me made me try Kristin’s program anyway. I can’t believe I did it. I was so very skeptical. Sitting through the sessions, I can’t believe what I soaked up. I became focused on such different things, I started doing things differently. In weeks I was dating multiple guys (this has never happened in my life) and in just a few months I found a guy who is special. We’re so connected and in love. We’ve been dating over 7 months and I am really excited about the future. Best dating results I’ve ever had. What Kristin teaches really works. It’s life changing!
The decision to work with Kristin and receive coaching from her to find a husband was the best decision I ever made! It’s hard to believe that this is all really happening… that I’m getting married in a few months! Kristin is a phenomenal coach with the right attitude and skills to get anyone attain their goals. The journey with her was emotionally and spiritually rewarding as I felt myself cut through some barriers that blocked my road to success in the past. I’m so very grateful to have met Kristin and to have had a chance to work with such an amazing spirit. If not, I may not have found my Ever After! Thank you Kristin from the bottom of my heart!
In January of 2019, I participated in a singles' retreat with Kristin and another dating coach. It was pretty intense with a lot of great information, and by the end of it, I felt empowered and excited to get out there and try everything out. Just a few weeks later I met an amazing man online, and was able to put the things I learned into practice. It must have worked, as we were married 6 months later. I couldn't be happier!
It is true! I’m getting married in July. I think the best advice you gave me is there is no magic. When it is suppose to happen it will happen. In my case that is what happened. We did meet online. I was the one that messaged him. He then called me. It happened when it was supposed to. We have been married for six months now. We are both so happy! Thank you for your help.
The focus on goals and how to meet them gave me new direction. Kristin’s strength, support and talent truly helped me find my Ever After. I am forever grateful for this woman’s ability to direct thoughtful questions that truly made me think and helped me understand myself more deeply. I began to learn who I really wanted for a spouse and what I deserved. It was a powerful, spiritual, emotional, and so very rewarding experience. After only 3 months, I began talking to ‘The One’. Met him online and yes, he was out of state so, had I not done this online thing, we wouldn’t have met! Four months later we are now engaged to be married. All I can say is Wow! Dreams do come true! Thank you Kristin for who you are. Your amazing intellect, sweet spirit, and unending devotion to your work. You are such a beautiful being, inside and out! This is truly your calling and Trent and I will be forever grateful for you!
I started to feel some pressure seeing all my friends find their partners. I knew I was being left behind…
My last single friend met her fiancee on Yahoo Singles in the year 2003. This was way before Match.com, smart phones and a decade before Tinder or any other dating apps.
As my best friend, she offered...no, she insisted on putting together a profile for me.
After a few weeks of interacting with some good guys here and some lame guys there, I got an email from a guy in California...
Through the miracle of the internet technology, I was able to find MY PERSON!
It happened for me despite having very limited dating experience in my life to that point.
If I hadn’t gone online, I would have never met my husband.
At that time, I thought my online dating career was over...but God had other plans for me...
Shortly after I got married, I had a good friend call me. She was divorced and wanted to try online dating, but didn’t know how to do it or what to say in her profile.
She knew I was a professional writer and asked if I was willing to write something up for her.
I had so much fun online dating, and it only lasted a few weeks before I met my husband. I was glad she asked for help so I could continue the fun on her behalf.
I helped her write a very attractive profile for her unique personality and snapped some photos I thought would do well for her online.
I interviewed her and pulled out the important things she was looking for.
I got clear on the kind of life that she wanted, then went to work.
I wrote a profile specifically to attract the guy and life she was hoping for.
Most importantly, I can proudly say I’ve personally helped hundreds of people find the lasting relationships that they were looking for.
If you’re on this page, then chances are you’re still looking for your partner and not getting anywhere…
Or maybe you’re just getting back into the game and you’re just overwhelmed by all the possibilities and don’t know how or where to start.
Step 1: Master the Inner Game First
Whenever new clients approach me for dating advice, the first things they usually ask about are things like “what should I say to him”, “how long should I wait to text him back” or “How do you write a good dating profile”...
In these kinds of questions are what I believe is the biggest mistake women make in dating:
Approaching dating from an OUTSIDE-IN approach, rather than an INSIDE-OUT approach.
In other words, they focus their dating efforts on OUTSIDE surface level techniques. They stress about knowing how to start conversations, or when to text him back or what to write on their dating profile…
If you really want long term success with men, then this step is not optional. If you only address the surface level symptoms, and not the root cause where all your behaviors emanate from, then you will be destined to stay stuck where you are.
Unfortunately it can take many years to learn this on your own and it's very easy to fall off track and revert back to old, familiar behaviors. I’ve seen it happen again and again.
Fortunately, after years of study and working with my clients on this, I’ve developed some POWERFUL techniques for overcoming your fears and mastering your inner game.
I’ve figured out simple techniques that any woman can use to rewire negative belief patterns and develop a core confidence that men will notice right away. This works no matter where your confidence is right now. The best part is, it won’t take years or even weeks to do it. You can start this process this week, even today!
Fortunately there have been a lot of recent developments and studies done in this area. They shine a much clearer light on how an effective dating process works. There is clarity on how to build attraction, connection and rapport with someone new. You can learn strategies about your part in progressing a relationship from one step to the other. When you don’t understand relationship dynamics, it’s hard to get anywhere. It's like feeling your way around in a maze, in the dark, in the middle of a fog.
Understanding relationship dynamics gives you a clear map forward. You don’t second guess yourself. You don’t waste energy worrying about what your partner is thinking/feeling during your interactions.
You know how to make real connections and communicate your needs. You get to your end destination much faster with less guess work and frustration.
“Meeting a significant other online has replaced meeting through friends. People trust the new dating technology more and more, and the stigma of meeting online seems to have worn off.” -Michael Rosenfeld
Sure you might go dancing in a club when you're in your twenties… but you’re probably not going to do that in your 30s, even more so if you have kids.
“But I’ve tried online dating but it doesn’t work”
Now, you might be skeptical about online dating…I totally get it. In fact, I don’t think I have EVER had a client come in and tell me how eager they were to get online. Everyone hates dating apps. Everyone hates the thought of connecting like this.
There’s no shortage of people venting about their online dating experiences:
“No one good ever matches with me on dating apps.”
“When I match with someone, they don’t ever message me.”
“Nothing but flakes and fakes.”
What is the best approach?
There are specific techniques and strategies that successful online daters do.
There are ways to win the algorithm’s that drive these apps and sites.
If you can get on the ‘good side’ of the algorithm, you win!
Getting on the ‘good side’ has a lot to do with using the right kind of photos, creating a compelling greeting that inspires responses, knowing how to search, what to say in a message (to get responses), etc. Algorithms tabulate all these factors.
Those that instinctively “get this” get an unfair advantage over other women… and it has nothing to do with their looks, weight, or age…
The good news is that anyone can learn how to see a big change in their results even if they’ve struggled with online dating for YEARS.
Fact: Many of these strategies are counterintuitive. I’m willing to bet you never heard of them before but you’ll be amazed at how effective they can be
I’ve seen countless clients go from frustrated to death with online dating apps to thoroughly enjoying it and getting better results in just a few weeks. This stuff really works.
Master Your Inner Game so you can become your most confident attractive self and attract more of the right men
Understand Relationship Dynamics so you can see the invisible game being played around you and navigate it like a pro
Increase Your Probability Universe so you can start dating more and find your ‘one’
For several years after my divorce I’ve held onto this idea that no one would be interested in me because I have kids who still need me. They are my first and biggest priority and nothing can change that. I was really scared to even try dating someone. The Dating Over 35 course really did help me steer my thinking about myself and dating. I am now using a dating app and being able to talk to men is a lot of fun. Adult conversations are refreshing and fun and I’m learning that there are a lot of people in the same boat as me. I thought dating online would be a lot more difficult and scary, but it’s mostly been fun. There’s somethings that aren’t great, but Kristin’s course did a good job preparing me. I’m so glad I did this. I think it will really help me as I get back into dating over the next few years.
“Feeling better after the very first lesson! I had no idea this was possible.”
“Online dating is so much easier when you have the formula for talking to anyone”
“After completing the lesson on Vulnerability Matching I think I know why so many of my relationships have failed in the past. Why do they not teach this stuff in college?”
“I never knew about the stages of a relationship. Understanding where you are in a relationship makes such a huge difference!”
“Understanding the basic qualities someone needs to sustain a healthy relationship has helped me avoid spending time with unhealthy men who def don’t have what it takes to be a good partner.”
The core course materials, including real life examples, templates and worksheets are immediately available on my online course platform.
Instant digital access from anywhere
4+ Hours of HD video training
Over a dozen exercise worksheets, templates, and checklists
Define Your Destination -- Your True North:
This module contains four videos and four journaling activities that will help you conceptualize what direction is the TRUE NORTH for your life. You’ll become clear about what kind of future you want and create a path to steer your life in the direction of your TRUE NORTH.
The Thought Revolution:
This module will take you through the STEAR Think Map. You’ll understand your brain, the automatic thoughts it triggers and the results of those thoughts. At the end of the five videos and activities, you’ll understand how to STEAR your thinking to get the results you want for your life.
Facing Forward With Real Intent:
In this five lesson module you’ll take a realistic look at some of the 5 common obstacles that stand in your way. When you know what they are and expect them, it becomes much easier to navigate around them and hit the ground running.
Found A Committed Relationship In Less Than 4 Months!
This course teaches so many important things, but for me the key was realizing that I HAVE SO MUCH TO OFFER. Why am I 44 and just realizing what a catch I am! I deserve to be adored. (This client found a committed relationship less than 4 months after completing this course)
In a committed relationship and moving forward!
I had very little hope that I could meet anyone worth my time online. I am so glad I found this course. It gave me the big shift I needed. As the course suggests, I started focusing on the things I wanted instead of what I was afraid of and I started to see a difference in my attitude. I found a guy who didn’t come in the package I expected, but I gave him a chance. We got to know each other through a few messages and I pushed myself to be more open than I’ve ever been in the past. We really connected! We’re in a committed relationship and moving forward has been easy and obvious. Every other relationship has had so much friction. I am so grateful for the things I learned in this course. If I hadn’t learned how to think better and how to set up a better profile I am sure I would not be in this situation right now. If you’re thinking about this course, DO IT. It’s the cheapest coaching or professional help you’ll ever find. What a deal!
Been together 7 Months and counting!
I found this course right when I really needed it. I was motivated for change in my life. I finally solved some other life-long issues and I was ready to tackle dating. I was committed, determined. I took to heart each lesson and learned a lot about myself that I didn’t know. A few months later I noticed a guy at a conference I was at who was good looking. We had a chance to talk at lunch. I did some of the things I learned in the course and it totally worked. Seven months later we’re still together and headed directly toward marriage. I am so happy I found this course at the perfect time. I am so much better off now.
More Dating Conversations Then She Ever Had!
I really like Kristen’s philosophy that: “There is a lid for every pot.” I thought I was going to have to lose weight and probably get a facelift to find someone decent. But I realize that being the best version of me doesn’t mean I need a new face. There is someone out there who will love me for me. I’ve for sure got a better attitude now and in only a few months my new attitude and zest for loving myself has scored me more dating conversations than I’ve had all of the last three years combined.
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"I found him! He didn’t come in the package I was expecting, but in no way do I feel like I am settling. This is absolutely my person. I’m so happy. This course helped me be open and vulnerable in all the right ways and at the right time. Thank you!"
"I just thought that after 40 it was time to give up. This course showed me how much opportunity there is even now. I was just focused on the wrong things. People find love all the way into their 60’s 70’s and beyond. I am so young and have lots of years ahead to be in love. It’s not too late for me."
"I’ve worked with several therapists over the years and none have given me the insight and practical applications that this course has. It is the cheapest, most beneficial self help money can buy."
"I quit focusing on dating a few years ago because it felt like all the good guys were taken and the only men left had tons of issues I didn’t want to deal with. But, these lessons helped me pinpoint what I needed to think about and then do. After a month of dating using the things I learned in the lessons, I can say I was wrong before. Sure, there’s plenty of people with problems, but I’ve found some really sweet guys in the last few weeks and I’m really excited to see where this goes. There’s more good guys than I realized. It’s totally worth it."
"I’m so glad I made room in my budget for this course! I think it would take me years and thousands of dollars in professional help to learn what I’ve learned in this course in just a few weeks. I’m amazed at the difference in my world outlook. A month ago I never thought I could feel this way."
"Everyone told me I was being too picky! I was so sick of hearing that from my married friends. Kristen’s view on when to be open and when to be picky were spot on in this program. After just a few weeks implementing this stuff I’m able to spot potential guys online that I would have passed on without this insight. I’ve already had some great conversations just a couple weeks after learning this material. I’ve passed on guys who looked better on the outside than they really were. I think I saved myself some time and trouble trying to make it the wrong kind of guys. Glad I saw this course and decided to go for it."
"I’ve been so burned out on dating and have been taking a break for several years. I’ve tried online dating on and off for 10 years with no luck. All I found was guys with tons of baggage. Crazy exes, a million crazy kids or guys with lots of problems and nothing really to offer in a relationship. It’s been so discouraging. This ECorse made me think differently about what I dwelled on in meeting guys on apps. There are still disappointing men with tons of baggage, but I don’t waste time dwelling on how disappointing it is anymore. This course showed me what to focus on instead and I am a lot better and letting things go. It’s really helped me shape how I online date and I’m having a much better experience this time. The good guys are fewer and farther between then I’d like, but they are there and I spend a lot less time worrying about the losers."
"I was feeling so bad about myself when I started this course. I know I need to lose some weight and get in shape. I felt so frumpy and unmotivated. This online course helped me realize what I want to be. I am now in the process of taking simple, practical steps to feel better about myself. In the last three months since I finished Kristen’s course I bought a new car that I absolutely LOVE driving and made the decision to go to back to school. I am also dating a guy that I met online. I don’t know if he’s the one, but it’s really fun to be dating and doing new things with my life."
"I always felt so much pressure from society to look better or try to be prettier. I am a good person and I try my best. I was so sick of hearing I wasn’t enough. This course helped me take a look at why I was being so resentful. Kristin’s words helped me realize that there WERE things I could do that would make me feel better. The main thing I’ve done so far is go and see my doctor. I had some issues that needed attention. My doctor is working with me now and i’m already feeling better than I have in years. I wish I had thought to go see my doctor sooner. Kristin’s lessons are full of common sense things like this. I have more energy to try some dating things. I can’t wait to see what I will accomplish in the next few months."
"I convinced myself that I was single because God forgot about me or was punishing me. I’m embarrassed to say this, but that’s how I was feeling. Finding this course showed me that God is aware of me. It’s exactly what I needed to hear. The lessons that covered the way we think and how your brain works was mind blowing. So simple. I’ve been better at challenging my thoughts that aren’t true and it’s making a HUGE difference after just a month. I feel like a different person. I was being my own worst enemy. God lives and he loves me. I remember that now that I am more in control of my thoughts."
"I had a lot of people in my family wanting to do makeovers or buy me clothes that I would never wear. Kristen helped me realize that there is someone for everyone no matter what you’re like. I feel so free knowing I don’t have to be someone I am not. I have tried harder to be the best version of myself. I feel better and I’m less worried about what other people think. I am using dating apps trying to find the “lid to my pot.” I know I am not for everyone, and I’m all good with that."
"I’m feeling so much better about myself after this course. I thought the whole world had passed me by. Now I’m realizing all the options I have. I’m capable to create the world I want! Yes!"
"I was convinced that I didn’t deserve to be happy like my friends and family. Why did I waste so much time thinking like this? So glad I found this course. I am happier than I have been in years and I haven’t even fallen in love yet. So full of hope."
"Money is tight. I was really feeling bad about buying this course, but I am so glad I did. Best money I’ve spent in years. I am smiling again. I am talking to people at church and work. I am excited about dating."